first school examination
My eldest son, Jadon will be sitting for his first primary 1 school examination on 16 November, lasting 4 days. The school, Piaget medan was kind enough to inform us the parents very early on… when I received the notes and the guidelines… I have a rather mixed and confused feeling … part of my little voice is saying… ‘hai yah… he is ok… not need to worry… his only problem is carelessness..’ … but honestly, another part of my little voice is praying rather aggressively hoping for the best…
I am writing this because… I can’t think what is right or what is wrong any more… you see… raising such worries and concern with any husband… these men replied will be.. ‘don’t worry too much, our child will be alright…’ and when the result is out?.. they start interrogating the wife (instead the son/daughter) of why the result is such and such… and what tuition are the children put on…
for me… I never bothered to ask the dearest daddy… he knows I am the fussy one.. so no matter what he said… the final decision is up to me anyway…… with Jadon.. for all his class tests, his results were always above the 95%… the errors that he made were mostly carelessness… in addition to the fact that he has really bad writing skill… as a mum… what is right?.. should I scold him on his carelessness? but knowing that it is not big deal…? so why should I make his life miserable at such a young age… knowing that getting 100 or 95 or 80 right now will make no difference to his adult life… BUT on the other hand… knowing that he knows and that he should easily scored full marks? … he does deserve some punishment dont you think?…
so with 2 weeks to the D day… I don’t really know what to do with him… should I choose to grill him?.. gosh… I am definitely jeopadising the mother and son relationship …. which I really don’t want to… but should I choose to do it in moderation form… seeing the end result will not make us very happy… which with Jadon’s personality, he will develop that… ‘it’s ok… my mummy is happy go lucky kind’... coz right now… whenever he came home with the silly mistakes… he will always casually replied me… ‘it’s ok mama… I know the anwser but I didn’t see it properly’….
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medankota on November 4th 2009 in Medan General, Medan School
marsangel responded on 04 Nov 2009 at 3:58 pm #
Gosh, when you put it that way, I’m so not looking forward to the day I have to tutor my son. I guess as parents we’d never know if we’ve chosen the right way to educate our children, because we always want the best for them and we’re ALWAYS left wondering if we’d made the right choice. Good luck to you and Jadon!
Medankota responded on 04 Nov 2009 at 4:10 pm #
I didn’t expect to feel like this at all… but thx.. we need all the luck…
Veronika responded on 06 Nov 2009 at 10:17 am #
I am not a parent. But I think I know what you’re talking about. I have a sister who’s also studying at Piaget. And I basically take care of her everyday, sending her to school, picking her up, paying attention to her studies blah2. Her exam is also coming up.
I think at her age, she has to learn to understand that result is not everything. We all know that kids make mistakes sometimes. And her main problem is carelessness. In my opinion, we should be focusing more on what the real problem is – in this case, carelessness. I know that my sister will do well in her exam. She will easily top the class IF ONLY you elimilate carelessness as one of the factor! =) So there is only one thing that I will “grill” her on – “Watch it, do not be careless because you will be gutted that you drop the marks just because you are careless. It will be a waste!” I would repeat that to her so often with the intention of emphasising it, hoping that she will really register it in her head and that everytime she does her exam, she will remember to be careful about the answer she put in.
I guess parents in medan focus far too much on the marks rather than the value that their children learn from every exam period. So yes, although the mark they get right now is unlikely to affect their future, it is good to actually focus on what will. In this case, maybe it’s their attitute towards study and the development of their character, not really the result on the paper. Because once they learn the most essential thing, the rest will fall into place almost naturally. =)